Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6
My oldest child turned 15 this past week. How scary is that? I don’t know which bothered me more: That I can’t tell my kids I’m 29 anymore without it being weird, or that she’s going to be driving in a year? Probably that I can’t get away with being 29 anymore, I have a year to worry about the driving thing.
So now my kids age range is 2-15. I really thought toddlers were the hardest age group, till I got a real live teenager. Teenagers are an interesting breed of humans. They are responsible, sweet, and loving one moment, then the next you ruined her world and she’s huffing off to go Instagram about it.
It’s a wonderful time. At least my two year old goes to time out when he throws a temper tantrum. Have you ever tried to put a fifteen year old into time out? I have – they laugh at you! Imagine that.
My oldest child is great don’t get me wrong when it comes to teenagers I’m pretty happy with this one. I think our biggest struggle is trying to figure out just how much independence a fifteen year old should have, verses how much she would like to have.
I know some of this is my own need for “control” and I ultimately need to rest in the fact that God is in control. Even that’s a struggle for me though. Lets face it. Yes God is in control but He entrusted me to raise these five little crazy children. So where is the handbook from God that says “At fifteen thou shall let her go to the library by herself!” ????? Yeah I looked it up. Surprisingly, nothing about what age you can let your child do certain activities.
I know this looks different for every family, which is probably why it’s not in the bible. (I hate when I answer my own questions.) But the thing is, sometimes it’s hard to know when I am listening to my instincts or when I am being overprotective. Hopefully by the time my fifth kid becomes a teenager I will have this figured out. – Now that thought makes me belly laugh!
At least in all my craziness I always let them know its out of love.